HUG Corner: Thought for the Week - 10/16
Healing After Loss (Martha Whitmore Hickman)
"Make me to say, when all my griefs are gone, 'Happy the heart that sighed for such a one!'”
"If we didn’t love them, we wouldn’t care so much.
At first the grief is so consuming, it may be hard to look ahead and foresee rejoicing – that we have been privileged to share life with this person.
Even when death is premature and the circumstances are terrible, we can know that, down the road, our gratitude for the life of the person will far outstrip the terrible grief that at first seems to take up the whole landscape of our lives. A friend whose son committed suicide told me that an important milestone in her healing was the making of two lists: one, of the bad things about her experience with this son; and another, of the good things. Needless to say, the list of good things was by far the longer list.
It will take time before the scale, tipped initially with the primary weight of grief, rebalances itself and our joy in the person’s life again takes preeminence. But if the relationship has been one of joy and mutual appreciation, this will happen.
I am grateful, from the bottom of my heart, that I have shared the life of my loved one. And I trust that someday my happiness, as I remember our life together, will far outweigh the grief I feel now."
"Be patient with everyone, but above all with yourself. I mean, do not be disturbed because of your imperfections, and always rise up bravely from a fall. I'm glad that you make daily a new beginning; there is no better means of progress in the spiritual life than to be continually beginning a fresh."
"To fashion an inner story of our pain carries us into the heart of it, which is where rebirth inevitably occurs."
"Time is a dressmaker specializing in alterations."