HUG Corner - Thought for the Week - 4/10
"Healing After Loss" Martha Whimore Hickman
"Out of every crisis comes the chance to be reborn, to reconceive ourselves as individuals, to choose the kind of change that will help us to grow and to fulfill ourselves more completely."
We know that one does not come through a grief unscathed. What we sometimes don’t fully recognize is the power we have, after the first grief has passed, to choose what we are going to make of ourselves, bereft though we are.
In a way, we resist claiming this power. We are tired. We don’t want to be held responsible. We are hurt. We want to be taken care of, tenderly, not to be told we have to forge a new beginning.
We all know of people who, after a devastating loss, go on to reshape their lives in heroic terms. I think of Elizabeth Gray Vining, whose husband died when they were both very young, and who went on to become tutor to the Crown Prince of Japan.
We have choices to make and, as survivors of crisis, we have new strengths, new power---if we chose to claim them.
“When life hands you a lemon, make lemonade”.
"Something within me is waking from long sleep, and I want to live and move again. Some zest is returning to me, some immense gratefulness for those who love me, some strong wish to love them also. I am full of thanks for life. I have not told myself to be thankful. I just am so."
"There is a gravitational pull, an endless current which we do not recognize which draws us beyond all things and people, but at the same time more deeply and freely into them."
"In search of my mother's garden, I found my own."