HUG Corner - Thought for the Week - 5/1
"Healing After Loss" Martha Whitmore Hickman
"We are real friends now because we have been able to share some painful experiences in our private lives."
- May Sarton
How quickly friendships are formed when grief is shared. Visiting my mother in the hospital soon after my daughter’s death, I fell into conversation with one of the nurses on the floor. I don’t know which one of us got to it first, her or me. But we were both mothers grieving for an adolescent child who had recently died. The usual slow, guarded, back-and-forth dance of getting to know someone sent out the window. We knew each other. We knew the pain, and the questions, in each other’s hearts.
I left the city—and my new friend. We exchanged Christmas messages for a number of years. And though we live a thousand miles apart, were we to see each other tomorrow, we would rise to that friendship as though we had been together just yesterday.
Sometimes it is hard for people we know who haven’t had an experience like ours to know how to relate to us. We can help them by talking about who we are now, in this new aspect of our lives. But how blessed we are to find friends who know, right away, what we are feeling.
With you, dear companion in sorrow, I can find comfort, and rest.
"So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today."
" We must each in turn care and be cared for, not just because it is good for us, but because it is the way things are."
Thought for the Week - August 7, 2017