HUG Corner - Thought for the Week - 5/29
From "Healing After Loss" Martha Whitmaore Hickman
At every point in the human journey we find that we have to let go in order to move forward; and letting go means dying a little. In the process we are being created anew, awakened afresh to the source of our being.
- Kathleen R. Fischer
We know full well that our loved one has died. Do we recognize that in that death a part of us has died, too?
The part of us that lived in our relationship to that person alive in the world has died.
The part of us that lived in expectation of a future on earth together has died.
The part of us that enjoyed the commonality of shared memories has died.
This is a lot to lose, and perhaps it will be easier to accept the effects of our loved one’s dying if we acknowledge the profound event this is in our life, too.
If we cannot let go, then our lives will be burdened with spots of unresolved death, and our whole system poisoned.
But if we can, then in the spaces where those deaths have occurred, new life will spring. “Nature abhors a vacuum”, we have heard many times. Some of the new life may be our new relationship with our lost love. But we will have to let go first.
I will open my hand and heart, to relinquish. And to receive.
"...and it was gray, and grayer the the deeper he went. What if it was deeper than he had figured? But soon the light changed, the muck brightened, and he was headed out, towards clear sky and sun again. He said that was the best sight in the world."
"Our closeness is enhanced by sharing our grief, much more so than by the misguided attempt to keep it all under control..."
"Something within me is waking from long sleep, and I want to live and move again. Some zest is returning to me, some immense gratefulness for those who love me, some strong wish to love them also. I am full of thanks for life. I have not told myself to be thankful. I just am so."