HUG Corner: Thought for the Week - 6/11
From "Healing After Loss" Martha Whitmore Hickman
"In our sleep, pain which cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart until, in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God."
Grief engulfs us, takes over our lives, renders us impotent. What are we to do?
Wait. Get through one day. Then another. And another.
We will feel as though we are only “going through the motions,” but it is important to go through the motions.
We are, in a strange way, relearning that we are alive.
We are alive, functioning, and can do what we need to do. But just barely.
Then one day we’re surprised (because how could it be so?) to realize that some of our energy has come back.
How did it happen? We didn’t expect it, didn’t even particularly want it to happen, because we had no expectation of anything happening. The important thing had already passed – the loss of our loved one.
But there it is. And our step lightens. And we begin to look around.
For all evidence of life where I felt only death, let me be grateful.
"Something within me is waking from long sleep, and I want to live and move again. Some zest is returning to me, some immense gratefulness for those who love me, some strong wish to love them also. I am full of thanks for life. I have not told myself to be thankful. I just am so."
"There is a gravitational pull, an endless current which we do not recognize which draws us beyond all things and people, but at the same time more deeply and freely into them."
"In search of my mother's garden, I found my own."