HUG Corner: Thought for the Week - 6/26
From "Healing After Loss" Martha WHitmore Hickman
"Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness…Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into our darkness, and it is as though a voice were saying, 'You are accepted.'”
How we berate ourselves. Why aren’t we able to look beyond this? Why aren’t we better grievers? If we are people of faith, why aren’t we able to let the faith we profess sustain us?
There’s more. What about those times we snapped at our loved one, or weren’t sensitive to his or her questions and state of mind, or went somewhere else when we knew that person would relish a visit from us? And on and on.
Would our loved one want us to feel all this extra anguish in addition to the sorrow of our loss? Was our loved one perfect? Is anyone?
No more are we. And don’t we have to be. No one else expects that of us, nor do we of others.
Most of us do the best we can. So let’s walk out of the brooding darkness of self-condemnation, take a deep breath, turn toward the light of love which embraces us all, and hear those words – “Let go of all that. ‘You are accepted.’”
For this moment, at least, I will let go of all those questions about my self-worth and know that I am acceptable just as I am.
"Anger is okay. Denial will hurt no one but me and those I love."
"...that persistent note of hope, without which we cannot live, starts thrumming in our minds..."
"Love the moment, and the energy of that moment will spread beyond all boundaries."