HUG Corner: Thought for the Week - July 31, 2017
"Healing After Loss" Martha Whitmore Hickman
"…All those who try to go it sole alone, Too proud to be beholden for relief, Are absolutely sure to come to grief."
- Robert Frost
Those who, out of pride or for any other reason, try to go it alone are in for a hard time.
Nowhere is this more true than in dealing with the loss of a loved one. We are already lonely – for the one we have lost. To be sure, no one can fill that particular space – and we wouldn’t want anyone to – but that emptiness does make us more needful of loving supporting relationships in the rest of our lives.
The work of grief is hard work, and we need people to help us – to listen, to & hold us, to remember our loved one with us, to give us their wisdom.
There is a story of a little girl who got home from visiting her friend later than her mother had expected. When her mother asked the reason for the delay, the child said, “I was helping Jane. Her doll broke.”
The mother asked, “Did you help her fix it?”
The child said, “No. I helped her cry.”
We all need people to help us cry.
"Something within me is waking from long sleep, and I want to live and move again. Some zest is returning to me, some immense gratefulness for those who love me, some strong wish to love them also. I am full of thanks for life. I have not told myself to be thankful. I just am so."
"There is a gravitational pull, an endless current which we do not recognize which draws us beyond all things and people, but at the same time more deeply and freely into them."
"In search of my mother's garden, I found my own."