Silverado North Houston Bereavement Group News Corner
Thought for the week-January 22-29, 2017 from "Healing After Loss"--Martha Whitmore Hickman
In a dark time, the eye begins to see.
When one walks out into darkness, at first it is hard to see anything. Then the eyes adapt to this loss of light and, bit by bit, we begin to see—probably to see things we’d have passed over quickly had we walked by them in full light.
Something like that happens with suffering. Not that we would have chosen it. Not that we like it at all. But after a while, against our will, against our better judgment, we realize that we have acquired some wisdom through all this pain. Our sense of what is important is heightened. We’re not so easily disturbed by petty things. We may make different uses of our time. Perhaps we reevaluate the demands we make of ourselves and drop some from the list. It was quite a revelation to me to realize in the wake of my daughter’s death that I didn’t have to take responsibility for the social ease of any situation in which I found myself. There are worse things than awkward silences.
We will probably find, among other things, that we are drawn to those who are experiencing fresh grief. We, more than most, can stand with them, so that in their dark time they will begin to see.
We who have dwelt in darkness begin to see.
Slowly, and with some ambivalence, I will begin to experience the new in my life.
Spirituality in its broadest sense is, quite simply, a way of life that reveals an awareness of the sacred and a relationship with the Holy One in the midst of our human frailty, brokenness and limitations.
--Edward C. Sellner
To be faced with the loss of a loved one is to be engaged—or reengaged more intensely—with the experience of the spiritual. Questions of our loved one’s survival, of our own relationship to the spiritual world, of our possible communion with the dead now or after our own death—all come to us with new urgency. Surely if we can summon an awareness of the Holy One as a loving, caring reality, we shall be miles ahead! We can bear the uncertainty of answers to our questions if we feel that the One who is in charge cares for us all, grieves with us when we are sad, and wills our good. This has been the yearning, and the confidence, of believers through the ages. “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen,” said the apostle Paul in the Letter to the Hebrews. These things are no less real for being “not seen.”
--In the midst of my brokenness, O Holy One, may I be made newly aware of you.
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