Making the decision to transition a loved one with dementia into a memory care community is deeply emotional. Whether you’re feeling relief, guilt, uncertainty, or all of the above—those feelings are perfectly valid. At Silverado, we’re here to guide you through what often feels like a deeply personal transition.
Here’s what many families experience—and to help you feel better equipped—we’ve broken down what to expect before, during, and after moving your loved one into memory care.
Before the Move: Preparing with Compassion and Clarity
1. Visit and Become Familiar
Take time to tour the community together—more than once if possible. Familiar surroundings and early introductions to staff can reduce anxiety before move-in day.
2. Share Their Story
Help staff understand the person behind the diagnosis. Share their likes, routines, triggers, and personality nuances so they feel seen and connected from day one.
3. Create a Familiar Space
Bring favorite belongings—photos, blankets, books—to help create a sense of home and continuity. These small touches make a difference.
4. Be Gentle with the Conversation
Use clear, gentle language about the move. Emphasize care and safety without overwhelming them. Expect emotions and revisit talks with patience.
During the Move: Practical Steps That Support Emotions
5. Plan Move-In Timing Thoughtfully
Morning moves can ease adjustment, as residents often feel clearer and less fatigued during those hours. Aligning with their natural rhythms helps the process.
6. Bring a Familiar Routine with You
Even in a new place, maintaining habits—like enjoying a morning coffee or listening to music—helps anchor the day in something comforting.
7. Work Closely with Staff
Introduce personal quirks, daily rhythms, and preferences to staff. The smoother your partnership, the quicker your loved one adapts.
After Move-In: Supporting Adjustment and Connection
8. Expect Emotional Ups and Downs
It’s common for residents to feel disoriented, sad, or even resistant at first. These reactions are part of adjusting—time, empathy, and consistency are key.
9. Keep Visits Regular and Meaningful
Frequent, familiar faces provide stability. Join activities when you can, even a simple walk or quiet time, to foster connection in the new environment.
10. Honor Their Pace of Adjustment
It’s not uncommon for a loved one to withdraw or express confusion. Be patient, celebrate small positive moments, and stay open to progress over perfection.
A Supportive Partner for Your Journey
Transitioning into memory care isn’t just a move—it’s a shift for the whole family. Silverado aims to walk beside you with resources, ease, and dedication.
While we offer exceptional care, what matters most is finding a setting that honors your loved one’s dignity, keeps their story alive, and brings comfort to both of you in this new chapter.
If you’d like guidance, insights, or simply a listening ear as you navigate this path, Silverado is here—no pressure, just support.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. How long does the adjustment period usually take?
Every individual is different, but most families notice improved comfort and acceptance over several weeks. It’s normal for emotions to fluctuate during this time.
2. What should I bring from home?
Personal items that feel familiar and meaningful—such as photos, quilts, a favorite chair, or keepsakes—help create a sense of comfort and continuity in a new environment.
3. How often should I visit after the move?
Frequent visits in the beginning can ease the transition. Over time, it’s also important to give your loved one space to build new connections with staff and fellow residents.
4. What if my loved one is resistant to the move?
Resistance is very common. Gentle reassurance, minimizing confrontation, and emphasizing familiar routines and relationships can help make the transition smoother.
